Too often we measure ourselves against other people. It's part of our training. Now more than ever we need to abandon our training. We need to explore our true selves. We must make the effort to achieve our goals from the standpoint of ourselves and what we were designed to do with our lives. How do we know what to do with our lives? It comes from that self talk we have inside. It is that part of self that we have a tendency to hide as a part of the training society has given us.