you are vital

There is no need to fit into the mold, the expectation of what others believe to be your best bet. There is only one best bet, and that bet belongs to the priority of opportunity from which you derive the most pleasure. This means that there is a focus, a way of doing things that, in the end, will yield the best possible outcome; one in which you find the greatest satisfaction. Because things change, especially if another comes into your domain, priorities change. This is a fact that brings forth new opportunities and/or old ones never realized.
The people around us are no more tapped in to the possibility of success than we are. There is no one general rule or way to achieve the success you desire in your life. There is only one mold for you and it was made specifically for you. Other people may at times try and fit into various molds; this is normal. But one day the rubbing on the side of your body will begin to itch and feel uncomfortable. When this happens it is time to remove yourself from that mold that was not created for you in the first place. That is a sign that it is time to stretch out and let it be known to the world that you have a place here, a desire for belonging to a system of occurrences of which you are a vital part.